How to Choose a Funeral Home

How to Choose a Funeral Home

There’s never a perfect time to look for the best funeral home or to plan on what items you want included in a funeral. Even though the average funeral costs around $8,000 this moment is quite possibly the most neglected major life event that we reluctantly encounter.

The right time to find the best funeral home for you or your loved one is when you don’t need to. Often, finding the best funeral home is put to the wayside when a loved one passes away. The spouse or significant other is in a state of distraught and simply uses the nearest funeral home or a funeral home that a friend or relative has suggested.

The difference between funeral home A and B can mean the difference between spending hundreds to thousands of dollars for the same services. How so? The underlying reason is ownership.

Although a funeral home may appear to be privately owned, over 20% of funeral homes are actually owned by a corporation. Corporations typically charge much higher rates than a privately owned funeral home and may even keep the same name of the funeral home that it has acquired.

You may think that you are going with a local company just because of the name on the board outside of the home, when in fact, that funeral home may be operated by a corporation which charges 30-40% more than the competing privately owned funeral homes in the area.

You can see why preparing in advance for a funeral can help save you money and reduce unnecessary stress in your life!

Here are the top five things to look for when finding the best funeral home for your needs:

1. Price compare. Every funeral home is required by law to make available a “General Price List” of all of the services and products that it offers. Ask for a copy so that you may compare the pricing with other funeral homes in the area. Many funeral homes offer a packaged selection – this may help reduce your overall out of pocket costs or they may charge more. Double check to see what competitors are offering.

2. Note what is included in their service fees as these may vary significantly from one funeral home to the other. The more specific the line items, the easier it will be to choose a funeral home.

3. Include ‘funeral costs’ in your life insurance plan. Avoid buying a funeral plan from the funeral home itself to avoid any undue headaches.

4. Skip the “protective” casket upsell. While this so-called feature keeps outside elements from destroying the body, it actually dehydrates the body and petrifies it. This little $8.00 cost to funeral homes is upsold for as much as $800 extra to their clients!

5. Buy a casket at Costco or a local retailer. Even Wal-Mart’s online store sells caskets. Funeral companies are required to allow you to use the casket of your choice. You are not required to use only their services or products should you decide to have the funeral at their location. Funeral homes are NOT allowed to charge a handling fee for using outside caskets. Currently, only Oklahoma bars customers from buying caskets directly from a retailer.

Want more help? Check out this useful guide put together by the Funeral Consumers Alliance.

Although one hopes for the best, it is always good to prepare for the worst. Preparing in advance will help you and your loved ones have a smoother transition during this difficult time.


  1. Douglas Brown July 17, 2015 Reply

    These are some great tips when preparing for funeral home service, especially the price compare. We are going to be looking for the right place for the next couple of months, and since we have plenty of time we can make sure we get it right. The other thing we can do in the meantime is prepare by including funeral costs in our insurance plan; that should help quite a bit I would imagine.

  2. Linda Tucker September 29, 2015 Reply

    Thanks for sharing this advice on choosing the right funeral home! I had no idea that you could actually buy a casket from a local retailer instead of from a home! That could definitely help save money, especially if you are picky about how your casket looks. Plus, I think it would be kind of nice to be able to pick out a casket without worrying about forming a contract with a specific funeral home.

  3. Jennifer Andrews October 28, 2015 Reply

    Thank you for the post. Our Grandmother will be passing away soon and she has asked us to help choose her funeral home and take care of her estate. I was unaware that you could funeral expenses in your life insurance plan, I will have to ask her if that is included in hers. I also like the tip to check on specific services. If something is unclear make sure they clarify it in writing.

  4. Timothy Reeg January 29, 2016 Reply

    Great tips, but I would like to add one more important tip here, i.e. visit several funeral homes. Ask the funeral home for their General Price List and have the director review it with you. Don’t select a funeral provider unless you feel completely comfortable with the director and the premises.

  5. patti February 16, 2016 Reply

    “This little $8.00 cost to funeral homes is upsold for as much as $800 extra to their clients!” I’m sorry, but usually cemeteries require a vault to protect the large equipment they use for digging graves from crushing the casket. It also cost significantly more than $8.00. Check with your cemetery and local to see if this is a requirement.

    “Buy a casket at Costco or a local retailer.” Do they have them in stock or do you have to order them? If you have to order them, how long does it take for them to be delivered?

    “3. Include ‘funeral costs’ in your life insurance plan. Avoid buying a funeral plan from the funeral home itself to avoid any undue headaches.” It is my understanding that you cannot use the funds from your life insurance plan until the estate is settled, usually well after the death has occurred. With a PreNeed plan made and funded with your local independently owned funeral home, your funds are safe, and your plan is guaranteed to lock in today’s prices.

  6. Jeff Madison March 29, 2016 Reply

    I appreciate your tip on including funeral costs in your life insurance policy. It seems that making this kind of adjustment would be a good way to ease the stress your family would face after your passing. My wife and I are beginning to plan our estates so maybe we should include funeral home expenses when we set up our life insurance policy.

  7. Sarah Smith May 19, 2016 Reply

    My father is trying to pre-plan his funeral but doesn’t know what funeral home to go with. Thanks for the tip that all funeral homes are supposed to have a general price list. I’ll have to make sure that we look at this so that we can find a decently priced funeral home.

  8. Luke Smith June 9, 2016 Reply

    A friend of mine’s father just passed away and they are looking to work with a great funeral home. They don’t have a lot of money so they should look for what fees there are. It would be nice for them to find a caring funeral director.

  9. Maggie Allen July 1, 2016 Reply

    I really like your second point on seeing what is included in the service fees of the funeral home, and then comparing them. That could definitely make it a lot easier to compare prices, too. After all, one funeral home could seem more expensive, but have less additional fees than other options.

  10. Jade Brunet August 10, 2016 Reply

    I am looking to find a good funeral home. Thanks for informing me that it is wise to compare prices. Another thing to consider is if children are allowed. I want my children to be able to witness this special experience.

  11. Shad Morris November 3, 2016 Reply

    We recently just lost my grandmother, and we weren’t sure what funeral home to hold the service. I really like that you say to compare the pricing of the different homes. It would be nice to find one that isn’t too expensive, but is close by.

  12. Funeral Homes Ipswich November 4, 2016 Reply

    I agree that locating for funeral homes Ipswich in advance is the best way to be ready in case one of your family member suddenly passed away. Indeed, it’s always better to be prepared for the worst. These funeral firms will surely make a difficult time more bearable for the families.

  13. Ridley Fitzgerald November 10, 2016 Reply

    Thanks for the tips for finding a funeral home. I agree that it’s a good idea to really look at a what’s included in their service fee. That would be easy to overlook in the aftermath of a death in the family, so thanks for the reminder.

  14. Finn Stewart November 17, 2016 Reply

    I’m reaching the age where it’s logical to start thinking about my funeral and what my kids will do after I leave this earth. I want to get everything in order and choose a funeral home now so that my kids don’t have to worry about anything. I really like your tip about asking for a copy of the general price list at a few funeral homes and compare the price of the packages or service. I don’t want anything fancy, so it will be nice to see what each funeral home offers to help me make my decision easier.

  15. Troy Blackburn December 12, 2016 Reply

    I had no idea that over 20% of funeral homes are owned by a corporation! I’ve heard though that many people end up choosing a funeral home based solely on location and not anything else. I have an aunt who is aging quickly and we’ll need to choose a funeral home with her soon. This article will help lots! Thanks!

  16. Burt Silver February 22, 2017 Reply

    Thanks for the tips about choosing a funeral home. My grandmother is nearing the end of her life, and we want to make sure that everything is taken care of. Thanks for mentioning that you should be very specific about what is included in the funeral package. I would want to make sure we knew exactly what we were getting.

  17. Ridley Fitzgerald March 6, 2017 Reply

    I appreciate the tips you have for choosing a funeral home. I like how you said to skip the protective casket thing. I wouldn’t want to spend extra money to protect the casket when it is under the ground.

  18. Bernard Clyde March 17, 2017 Reply

    I agree that you should compare a few different funeral homes and their prices so that you can find an option that provides the service you want for your loved one at a fair price. There are enough things to worry about when funeral planning to have to feel overcharged. It’s important to not just settle for the cheapest funeral home option, but you should feel like you are getting a fair deal.

  19. Olivia Nelson March 28, 2017 Reply

    I agree that you need to compare prices when looking for a funeral home. It would seem that if you want to leave your loved ones in good financial shape you would need to consider the cost of a funeral. I have heard that cremation is another way to help reduce costs so finding a home that offers this would be helpful.

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